Surabaya, 18 January 2024
I am currently in a situation where people in my music band are hating homosexuals, but as they may call themselves as a real gentleman, they often make jokes that degrade women. I remember when one of them said "My wife told me if I wear that T-shirt, I look like a gay". In my opinion, "so what's wrong with gay?". His words implies as if homosexual is something bad and deserves humiliations. Now, imagine if you were me in that situation, where you have to hide yourself, fake smiles, but in reality they are hurting you.
It does not stop there. They always make nasty jokes about women. Their words are sexualising women that in my opinion do not respect women's dignity. For example, they said "jilmek (licking women's genital)" and they laugh as if it is a funny thing.
Contrasting what they said about gay and what they said about women, I can say they are hypocrites. They think they are the real gentlemen because they are straight and judging gays are disgusting, but in another side they does not respect women by sexualising them and makes dirty jokes about them. And this situation seems to be normalised among our society. I am so sad to be in this situation, but what can I do besides hiding myself?
