The Problems Of Forcing Homosexuals To Marry Opposite Gender

Malang, 1 January 2018

Another person commented on my post, and this time is my teacher.

She argued that homosexual is a contagious disease and has caused a married man cheating on his wife for another man. She has accused that homosexual is a sexual predator that destroys someone's marriage. She keeps believing that homosexual is aiming young generations to multiply itself and spreading the "disease" (I am super sad to be slandered like this 😢😭).

Then, I clarified her statement. I asked her "if the cheating is between heterosexuals, what is it to blame? Is it their heterosexuality or is it their cheating?". If she blames homosexuality for the cheating, why doesn't she blame heterosexuality for the more-common cheating cases?

I am not going to stand for the cheating man in this case. Whether or not he is actually a homosexual inside, I will not judge him. To me, he probably has hurt his wife, kids, and families. But, there are a lot of cases of homosexuals are not happy with their marriage with an opposite gender.

Our society has opressed homosexuals' right to follow their natural sexual desire. A lot of homosexuals are forced to conceal their sexuality and forced to marry a person they are never sexually attracted. They are honestly never happy with their marriage life. This is actually a ticking bomb.

We need to fix our society in the first place. Opressing homosexuals for their sexual life actually brings a lot of subsequent problems. Some of homosexuals are living as someone else for the entire of their life and sell their happiness to society. But sexual orientation can never lie. Some of them still look for their missing piece eventhough they are married. This emerges a stigma that homosexual is destroying someone's marriage. Well actually the real problem is not like that.

Some other homosexuals are desperate with their "fake" life and decide to live freely and honestly. They have been disappointed by their failure to be "cured" and disappointed by the accusations, slanders and judgments from religious and heterosexual hypocrites. They have lost their faith to society's values.  But some of them are going too far and irresponsible with their freedom. But again, people only see the outcome not the rootcause, and make a misleading generalisation about homosexuals.

People should not close their eyes that homosexuals do really exist. Homosexuals always exist in nature in a smal chunk of a population. Heterosexuals statistically are always a majority. But their majority power has made them as a discriminative group. Why would they worry about homosexuals? Homosexuals and heterosexuals are competing in the different league. Why do they still opress homosexuals and force them to live as heterosexuals? It is heterosexuals who create problems to homosexuals in the first place, not the other way around. Why can they never understand? They have been blinded by their religious doctrines. They can't deliberate this issue fairly and rationally. All their arguments are full of prejudices and slanders. Why does religion teach people to hate each other?

I believe if people are acknowledging homosexuals to live as they are, they will have a healthy social life just as heterosexuals do. Homosexuals are no different with heterosexuals. They can be good, can be bad, and have the same rights and position in laws. But heterosexuals' opression to homosexuals' life does actually create a lot of derived problems.